exiledleftist · June 20, 2020, 8:34 a.m. · 1 reply
I am US, but I sort of watched this happening to a woman I was "sort of" dating when this COVID stuff hit.
She had shared custody of her kids with her ex-husband, but as the schools were starting to close, he started making medical/corona-related excuses why he couldn't take them, until it appeared that they were basically at her place full-time, while she was also working from home full-time. I think she felt like she basically HAD to keep the kids because he simply wouldn't take them back. Every week it was a new excuse.
As someone with no kids and no plans for kids, I find it a bit difficult to imagine dating someone with such an immature co-parent, but I felt so bad for her and wondered if this was happening all over the place.
Ivegotthatboomboom · June 20, 2020, 4:49 p.m. · 1 reply
Yeah, it's pretty common. For most women the Dad is the helper/co-parent and mom is default. Biases in gender roles play a huge part, "homeschooling mom" or women as teachers is a stereotype that has really effected women who are also working full time. And then when you consider that she's probably also the one doing most of the house work...I'm hoping new generations of men are different. I think lots of men in their late 30s and 40s grew up with a sexist father and learned it from them. Also it's not her fault her ex is like that. Sometimes they're great and their true colors don't come out until after you've had the baby with them.
If you're uncomfortable dating someone who has their kids full time than you shouldn't waste her time and let her find someone that doesn't care.
exiledleftist · June 20, 2020, 4:58 p.m. · 1 reply
They don't live together so she is definitely doing all the housework. We ended up not keeping in touch during quarantine for unrelated reasons. Her kid situation was depressing as hell, though.
I definitely don't think it's her fault her ex is like that. (I'm not a dude btw? I'm a lesbian.)
Ivegotthatboomboom · June 20, 2020, 6:54 p.m. · 1 reply
I see! Sorry for the assumption! For some reason I picture every redditor as male
exiledleftist · June 20, 2020, 7:14 p.m.
When most of the lesbians online are LARPing men, anyway, it's an understandable mistake. No worries.
lissomelight42 · June 20, 2020, 9:08 a.m.
😱 I'm so shocked 😱 whatever could possibly be the cause 😱😱😱😱
I'd like to add I think this is happening in Canada too
I am US, but I sort of watched this happening to a woman I was "sort of" dating when this COVID stuff hit.
She had shared custody of her kids with her ex-husband, but as the schools were starting to close, he started making medical/corona-related excuses why he couldn't take them, until it appeared that they were basically at her place full-time, while she was also working from home full-time. I think she felt like she basically HAD to keep the kids because he simply wouldn't take them back. Every week it was a new excuse.
As someone with no kids and no plans for kids, I find it a bit difficult to imagine dating someone with such an immature co-parent, but I felt so bad for her and wondered if this was happening all over the place.
Yeah, it's pretty common. For most women the Dad is the helper/co-parent and mom is default. Biases in gender roles play a huge part, "homeschooling mom" or women as teachers is a stereotype that has really effected women who are also working full time. And then when you consider that she's probably also the one doing most of the house work...I'm hoping new generations of men are different. I think lots of men in their late 30s and 40s grew up with a sexist father and learned it from them. Also it's not her fault her ex is like that. Sometimes they're great and their true colors don't come out until after you've had the baby with them.
If you're uncomfortable dating someone who has their kids full time than you shouldn't waste her time and let her find someone that doesn't care.
They don't live together so she is definitely doing all the housework. We ended up not keeping in touch during quarantine for unrelated reasons. Her kid situation was depressing as hell, though.
I definitely don't think it's her fault her ex is like that. (I'm not a dude btw? I'm a lesbian.)
I see! Sorry for the assumption! For some reason I picture every redditor as male
When most of the lesbians online are LARPing men, anyway, it's an understandable mistake. No worries.
😱 I'm so shocked 😱 whatever could possibly be the cause 😱😱😱😱
I'd like to add I think this is happening in Canada too