https://glinner.co.uk/ask-your-mp-the-staniland-question/

Assuming that you haven’t been banned from Twitter for pointing out that Jonathan Yaniv is exploiting trans ideology as cover for his predatory sexual behaviour (as a totally hypothetical and in no way oddly specific example)

Get onto your MP, make a fuss, raise some awareness about what the real world consequences of Stonewall’s end goals would be

Sorted? Sorted.

Obviously a post for the straight/bi men. I'm a straight detransitioned woman who has been on testosterone and has had "top surgery". I still have mild dysphoria, but it moreso manifests as an interest in maleness- I am very much over the idea that we can change sex and am pretty much okay with my body now, which looks very female despite the flat chest. I would like to have a relationship and kids someday with someone who "gets it". This feels like a pretty big ask, and I'm terrified of putting myself out there. From what I can tell, there are two main groups: average "uninitiated" men who would be put off by my body and/or history, and "woke" men who would be put off by the fact that I don't think it's possible to change sex. It's tempting to "identify" as nonbinary to appeal to the second group, but it would honestly be intolerable. It would also be extremely painful to pretend, for the sake of the first group, that transitioning was just a "silly mistake" or that my "male identity" had been a brief phase. I sincerely wish it had been, and it could just be a ~weird teenage quirk I had lol!!~ but I was one of those people with severe, daily dysphoria. It would be like never being able to discuss a history of depression with your partner- or the fact that I grew up as a girl.

What I want out of life feels impossible at this point. I'm not old, but I'm not 20 either. I don't have as much time as most young detransitioned women and on top of that my history makes me feel like my life is already over. I feel guilty even putting myself out there or expressing interest in anyone because I don't want to make men feel like there's something wrong with them that a Problem Woman would be into them. I have no idea how people overcome these sorts of feelings, even through therapy. I am afraid if I tried to explain my situation to a therapist, I'd be recommended transition.

How would you feel? Is it worth trying if I'm up-front about this? Or does being straightforward just come across as oversharing? This post is embarrassing to even make, but I don't think there's a better place to ask the question- I'm pretty sure I'd get wiped from AskMen (or downvoted to hell) if I asked the question in full due to the way I feel about gender now.

Feels bad man.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WtftZPL-k7Y oof

How could they know?!

Nostradamus like prediction, full of symbolism and mystery

They've deleted their tweets now because of the obvious backlash.

Even had the audacity to say that TW experience "disapportionately high volumes of sexual violence".

I don't know stats for sexual violence but I believe women in the UK are murdered at the rate of 2-3 per week. There has been 9 deaths of TW in 10 years in the UK.

Tweets

If you're still passively exercising your male privileges because others continue to perceive you as a man, especially if you're also white, then I don't want to hear you whine about how much oppression you're faced with and how other marginalized groups should drop their movements and revolve around you and your entitled ego.

You're so privileged that your experience could barely represent trans experience.

So, as usual, I did a thing, and emailed my former Transgender Studies professor, a course a took some 8-9 years ago back when I was way into being "woke," and asked her if we could speak on the phone.

I mentioned that I hit a turning point after learning about the cotton ceiling, and spent the last year or so diving into a lot of different research. I mentioned autogynephilia, along with other topics, and told her that she didn't need to respond if she wanted to, and that I would totally understand.

But she did, and said she would love to speak to me over the phone, and asked if I could provide her sources for her to look at. She also gave me a list of sources she helped compile that are on a university website, which I won't reveal to keep her anonymous. Frankly, they didn't help much.

My main point is going to be in relation to the idea that "transwomen have feminized BSTc's, therefore, that's where 'gender' lies in the brain." I'm going to refute this, with my own sources, as well as some others that go into various topics, like brain structure of gender dysphoric people, brain structure of homosexual men and women, research on body integrity dysphoria, etc. My approach is very much biological, basically a dismantling of the idea of an “essence” of male and female. I will also talk about how gay men, lesbians, and bisexuals are being attracted for not sleeping with trans people, and how that is affecting us.

Also, I just want to know her opinion. I took many courses of hers, and have a lot of respect for her. Am I going to change her mind on what she's doing? No, but I always want to hear both sides.

Any input, gentleman?

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We will be talking next week, and of course I'll update you all.

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I think a lot of people have been using this subreddit wrong. It’s called r/GenderCriticalGuys yet everyone is just posting transphobic shit??? Nah nah nah, with a subreddit name and mod team like this one people should be posting the abc’s and the wheels on the bus lyrics, you know, normal stuff you learn in pre school, like human rights and not being a dick. Just a rant. Don’t let me know what you think, I don’t care. Silence, terfs :)

San Francisco has proposed an act to make racially motivated emergency calls illegal. They’re calling it Caution Against Racially Exploitative Non-Emergencies or CAREN

https://www.cnn.com/2020/07/08/us/caren-act-911-san-francisco-trnd/index.html

While I truly believe abuse of and by emergency response systems is a massive issue for people of color, I am disgusted by the name of this bill. To be clear, I don’t oppose its sentiment (though dealing with institutional racism and defunding the police should be an equally high priority).

It just hurts to see our systems of government taking up this sexist language and validating it in legislation. The use of Karen in this way has become just another word for bitch. It’s gendering racism and entitlement, and it’s done so using the female gender.

Almost anywhere else I’ve voiced this criticism, I’ve been met with “sounds like something a Karen would say” and “it’s a critique on racist white women”. But like, why is the face of racism now female? Where is the male equivalent? And before people say “chad” or “Kyle” you know those don’t mean the same things.

Idk where I’m going with this but it just really rubs me the wrong way and I thought the people here might have some good insight.

Like I don’t know what this hasn’t been done. It seems if the trans community are invading women’s only spaces and subreddits then why not use their own terminology against them? If you can’t have “women’s only” spaces cause they want to be included as “women” then why not make a “Cis-Women” space? By their own definition it means to identify as the gender you were born as, ie. being born biological a woman and identifying as a women. They can’t join those spaces as they were not born women and can’t be considered a “cis-woman”. And they can’t argue to be included because this is their own terminology to describe women who were born women and identify as such.

Hey guys. It is quite saddening for me to see women being attacked and threatened for literally a disagreement over gender. I am from Turkey, and I know from first hand that although in first world countries some people like to think that women rights exist and work to full extent, but there are literally hundreds of women getting beaten to death by their husbands etc every day. There is still a long way to go all around the world, and it is shocking for me to see people ganging up on women.

What if a lesbian woman rightfully doesn’t want to sleep with a trans woman, does that make her a transphobe? As a gay man, I do not like pussy. Does it make me transphobic if i do not want to sleep with a trans man? I also do see the misogyny in play here, because I rarely witness gay men getting attacked over not being into trans men. It is almost always the women that get attacked.

If I say that trans women can’t get pregnant, does that make me a transphobe? Since trans women = women, I guess it equals to me saying women can’t get pregnant, which is false. If it is false, shouldn’t we classify trans women differently than afab women? I keep seeing trans women are women slogans all around the social media and it is making me question some stuff more i see it.

Thank you for reading my post, and sorry if my English is a bit shaky, it is my second language. Hope you all have a great day

Apologies for the long ramble. I've been inactive for a while, trying to get less screen time during lockdown, but upon the mass Reddit purge I've decided to return.

Something that I've come to realise, during my time in various circles (prior to this account), is that there are only a few incentives that will make people act in acceptable manner.

One of those, and the reason for my account name, is the threat of violence.

Now, what stops a pervert from entering a woman's space? Is he worried about how the women might feel? No. He's worried that either a woman he has targeted will be carrying pepper spray (or some other means of self defence), or that other men will apprehend/attack him (law enforcement or otherwise). The only thing that prevents these people from having free reign is the threat of violence.

With TIMs, as I'm sure we are all aware, that threat of violence is not present. TIMs are able to enter bathrooms and act with impunity, because nobody can touch them. They do not feel threatened. Unlike a bog-standard pervert, to threaten a TIM entering a woman's restroom would be considered a "hate crime" by the majority of western societies.

I understand the idea that many do not wish to stoop to their level in exhibiting threatening behaviour, but this is the only language that pornsick perverts understand.

Another realisation that I have had, though more recently, is that the majority of people do not respond positively to well thought out arguments. Someone else here made this point too, she said that most people who have "peaked" were not peaked by the arguments of radfems or gc individuals. It's not that they are bad arguments, but because most people respond more to social pressure than they do to well thought out discussion.

I was once of the opinion that I could change people's minds by providing a well thought out argument, and discussing beliefs with them. I would do this only to find that, the next day, those very same people who had agreed with me had returned to their old TRA talking points.

I decided to change tactics, and I simply started bullying and ridiculing people. Whenever other men would mention TRA nonsense, I would laugh at them and say something to the effect of "yeah, I bet she had a real nice penis mate" in a mocking tone.

I have found that social shame and ridicule, at least in this case, work far better than logical thinking and persuasion. Remember, many people who have fallen into TRA thinking have done so because of social pressure - nobody reaches these positions by thinking about things logically.

Now, I'm not a particularly physically imposing person. I'd say I have a medium build. But simply by having a domineering personality, an individual is able to make others hang their heads in shame. Not that I enjoy doing it, but it's the only way to get through to many people.

Of course, there are people out there who will respond positively to a well-presented argument. This is the difference between my girlfriend (G) and my friend (F).

F is a male TRA. Multiple times I have explained to him my position, and he has agreed with me almost every time. On just about any issue, I can convince him of a position that is the polar opposite of his own. However, F is surrounded by TRAs in his online spaces, and is consistently witnessing people being shamed for disregarding TRA dogma. Therefore, the fear he has of being socially shamed stops him from permanently adopting other positions. At one point, at a social gathering, he attempted to shame me in front of G. He called me transphobic, and she laughed in his face. "I know," she said. He looked away, hanging his head awkwardly. That's when it hit me. From then on, I began shaming him whenever he brought up trans stuff. He stopped bringing it up very quickly.

G, on the other hand, is an exception to the rule (as I'm sure most people here are). She responds very negatively to social pressure, and positively to sensible conversation. The majority of people are not like the people on GC Reddit. That's why we are a small (albeit growing) community.

Shame, social pressure, and the threat of violence. These are the only things that will put a system in place that will protect women and prevent TIMs from invading female spaces.

That's just my opinion. If you disagree I'd be interested to hear an opposing position.

I started lurking here a couple weeks ago and I was relieved to know that there were people with like-minded ideology who weren’t spewing hate or seemed extreme. I just went through this subreddit again tonight and some of the things I’ve been reading seems borderline hateful and filled with spite. Does anyone else feel the same way?

A good example is this. Notice the article chose the word "centering" rather than "including."

BET’s apparent erasure of my voice underscores the hollowness of their claim during the show to be for all Black people. The bottom line is that Black Liberation without the centering of Black trans women is no liberation at all. Rather it replicates our current system where some are free and some are oppressed.

https://thegrio.com/2020/07/02/bet-awards-ad-black-trans-women/?fbclid=IwAR0mggaa4kUskmF2PwzTg3BVnxJqZx3Vaks54cA73yBraBuro5NDJDrucLU

The pathological need to be the focal point, the center of everything, is an example of the male socialization that never leaves even when one stops identifying as a man.

It's called r/ThePowderRoom (I was surprised to find out no one had snagged that name up!)

Due to the recent events of women-oriented subreddits getting banned or straight up purged and taken over by Reddit admins to exclude women, silence our voices and the exclusive issues we face, I decided to make the subreddit.

I made sure to write that we understand and respect members of the LGBTQ community and their issues, but we want the same understanding and respect for women exclusive issues as well. That way, if a specific group of individuals were to attempt to come to said subreddit spewing negativity and hate speech against a subreddit that is garnered to women AND other minority groups as well, they would be banned per the rules of the sub AND reddiquette.

I made it all by myself in a few hours and I am looking for like minded individuals to join, as well as a decent moderator team [preferably one that has like-minded women as myself as well as those that support feminism].

The only quibble I have is from the "-phobic" part.

Believe me, I'm not afraid of a guy wearing a dress and going "oowoo! oowoo!"

I think they're disgusting.

I'm not afraid of them.

I keep hearing from TRAs trans people are the most oppressed, they are the most likely to get killed, yadda yadda yadda. But I have yet to see a real life example of this. Name one right that everyone has that trans people don't? For instance, in my state, in libraries, colleges, parks etc. there is always a notice in the public restroom that people have a right to use the restroom that matches their "gender identity", and anyone who harasses that person will be prosecuted. If that's not bad enough, during my college orientation, the tour guy said that harassment is prohibited on campus, and one example he gave was using the wrong pronouns. Then in freshman year my campus was hosting a feminist event for women's day. There was a panel of women speaking about what it's like to be a woman, including my professor. One of those "women" was a TIM. Then last year my gender studies professor who was a butch lesbian declared in the middle of the semester she was going by they/them pronouns. At that point it was too late to drop the course. She had 100% good reviews on RMP and I had no idea she bought into this gender bullshit. I was afraid to say anything because using the wrong pronouns is considered harassment. I'm glad we went online this year and I graduated. I also lost a childhood friend because I am open about my GC views. From her Facebook posts you can tell she hopped on the woke train and is now an SJW. I actually lost a few friends from high school for the same reason. I'm actually afraid to speak publicly about my GC views, because I'm afraid it will ruin my career opportunities.

That's why I want to know how trans people are oppressed. They clearly got the law to bend to them, because in my state you can't question a TIM entering the women's restroom. A TIM was allowed to speak about feminism at a "feminist" event, using the wrong pronouns is considered harassment, my professor started going by they/them pronouns, and if you say anything other than positive things about the trans movement you're an evil TERF and people doxx you and contact your employer and you get fired and lose your source of income. and TRAs unfortunately outnumber GC feminists. People should be allowed to freely express their views without losing their jobs, even if you don't agree with them. Now Reddit banned r/GenderCritical, Twitter silences us, and I'm afraid every other site is going to hop on the woke train.

ok terfs:

you’re a femboy get on the gay socks now

Hi everyone, I was a short-time lurker on the GC sub and was really disappointed to find it had been deleted.

I'm newish to some of the concepts and ideas of rad fem and I want to learn more about it. I don't have much of a grasp on the particular terminology used here so please bear with me.

I'm a woman in my 30s. I've always had this simmering anger at how women have been, and still are, treated - both by men and by other women. I consider myself a feminist, but not a "man hater". I'm married to a really lovely and thoughtful guy.

Over the years I've been considerate of the trans movement. I'm a "live and let live" kinda person, as long as nobody is getting hurt along the way. At university I had a group of female friends who were strongly into feminism and trans rights. I didn't always agree wholeheartedly with some of the things they said but I kept those thoughts to myself because they were kind of angry towards anyone who didn't agree with them.

Then one of them decided she was a man, and everyone started referring to her as "him". It was a shock to my system. She had an 8 year old son and I wondered what kind of effect it would have on him to have his mum now become his dad. To be honest... I felt really silly playing along. It was like we were playing that "opposites day" game that kids play. I drifted away from them after that. I found out a few years later that she transitioned back into a woman.

I'd always thought that trans people likely had a mental illness of some sort, but it wasn't acceptable to put that opinion out there. Then it became less and less acceptable to speak about it in any way other than being supportive and encouraging. I've always been a people pleaser and I try not to hurt anyone's feelings, so I went along with it. "How brave and beautiful is Caitlyn Jenner!", "No, I have no issue at all sharing the female toilets with a transwoman".

I drew the line at "transwomen are women" because my logical mind wouldn't permit it. I don't believe in ghosts, bigfoot or crazy conspiracy theories. I can't say something that simply isn't true. It'd be like saying "red is blue".

Still, I kept those thoughts to myself and just avoided discussing the subject with anyone. Then the JK thing happened, and I didn't understand it. I couldn't figure out what it was she said that was so wrong. I took to a forum to ask, and I was absolutely annihilated. Both men and women swamped the thread with angry posts, some simply saying things like "because transwomen are women" - which doesn't explain anything to me. I didn't have the background or facts behind me to provide a decent argument.

One guy was very insistent that "TWAW" and said that women (real women...?) are just threatened by transwomen. When asked if men are threatened by transmen he said no, because transmen don't have the "tools" required to be a real man. So he basically dismissed transmen just like that, while supporting transwomen. To me, that's just another man being sexist towards women. That's not trans-positive at all. It's just a man fighting for men to be able to do whatever the fuck they want to do while completely dismissing women.

Now, I'm reading that subs about women's health are being removed due to being "transphobic". That really scares me. Really really scares me. Can someone please explain how a sub on female health issues can possibly be seen as transphobic?

I'm also curious on how you view transmen. If you don't support transwomen but you support transmen, then you're no better than that guy I mentioned above, surely?

As I said in my title, I'm new to this but I feel like I'm on the right track. It worries me that I'm forming an opinion that is so vastly unpopular because I've always considered myself at the forefront of social progression and "woke" culture... but now I feel like that's being hijacked by something sinister and nobody realises it.

All the women supporting it... it's like seeing sheep marching themselves towards the abattoir.

Edit: can someone please explain what "peaking" is?

On Pornhub's top search categories for 2019 transgender came 15 out of 20. And I see many men online into it.

Do you think it's niche and rare, or quite common behind closed doors?

And if you think this means they are bisexual. Why aren't these bi men watching trans male porn (since they are into men, women, penises and vaginas.) They aren't because the viewing figures are much lower and it's a niche within a niche and not anywhere near as big a category.

Do you think there are FAR more bi men than women, but most identify as straight because they believe you can like dicks and be straight. (Dicks on women, dicks by themselves and not the rest of a man, etc.) Because straight women aren't watching or being turned on by trans men with vaginas.

Rad fem woman here, I really need to get this off my chest.

While I know and understand many people have in fact been peaked by radical feminists/GC women and men, J.K. Rowling and other public figures, I have to say it's quite interesting that everyone I know in real life, including myself, has been peaked by the TRAs alone. And not the trans people who just want to live their lives and understand their dysphoria, who know they are not biologically the opposite sex, nor their allies who think every human deserves the right to safety or a life of dignity. But the new wave of TRAs who are so hateful, narcissistic and ludicrous in their claims that we're forced to set boundaries because we're becoming more aware that they are trying to assert their rights over ours. Playing the oppression olympics, attempting to erase women and our spaces, and doing a piss poor job of keeping a consistent, sensical line of thought to the point where we can no longer pretend like this isn't harmful to women, the LGB community and GNC people alike.

Another friend of mine just texted me last night about peaking because a TIM we know from our local music scene regularly posts to his facebook crowdsourcing links to fund other TIMs trans-related surgeries and just general requests for money despite the fact we're all fucking struggling right now. This TIM peaked my friend because we've seen enough posts from him shifting the BLM conversation to be focused exclusively on black trans lives (despite the fact Black Lives Matter is inclusive of all black people) and claiming to be a feminist while never, ever posting anything related to actual women's issues. And then he was invited to speak at a feminist conference even though it's known in the community he is a grifter who takes advantage of women. Awhile back, when deaths were skyrocketing due to the pandemic, he posted how hard it is for trans people to not have the "life saving surgeries" they so desperately need, and when another TIM called him out saying breast augmentations are not priority right now, he started raging at the criticism and used words like bitch and cunt to retaliate.

This is the shit that is forcing us to draw the line. The blatant narcissism and entitlement. What pushed my friend to the edge was the aforementioned TIMs most recent claim that it's more important to donate to a trans woman than any other charity or person right now. She was fed up and couldn't play along anymore. So for all the lurkers and people who harass rad fems, call us evil terfs and try to silence us, just know that by trying to shut down our platforms and anyone else who stands with us, you will not eradicate resistance. As long as the TRA crowd continues to remain out of touch with reality and trample on other people in order to get what they want, people will peak. We are not transphobic, we don't wish you harm or threaten you the way that you threaten us with rape and death. We're just not buying your bullshit anymore and will continue to stand up to your abusive language and tactics.

I’ve been peaking for a while but recent events have made me peak HARD. I’m disgusted by the erasure of women, the policing of language, the obvious misogyny. What hurts me the most is the hostility towards lesbians. How can this straight girl help her lesbian sisters? Are there charities or organizations I can get behind? This can not stand!

This backlash and censorship for being a woman is making me somehow… relate? Let me be clear: not to their ideologies, but to how they must feel? It feels blasphemous to even say so…

I am politically lost. I was firmly Left-wing. I used to be a proud libfem, convinced I was doing right by girls and women, but now I’m like, as I see all these “otherwise impressive, strong women grovelling and humiliating themselves as a result of being sadistically bullied by some trans-activists” (@bindelj)- how could I have been so blind?

It’s not that I couldn’t see, it’s more like I purposely put on blinders. Convincing myself that we agree on the majority of things, and that just because we disagree on this, doesn’t mean I’m not a liberal feminist, it’s not a big deal.

Now look at what’s happened. Right to free public assembly has been taken away. Sex-based rights are being taken away. And what are the Left doing about it? insert cricket sounds here

From the Right I expect misogyny (how disturbing is that statement), but when it’s our own people, I feel a keen sense of betrayal that replaces my sense of belonging.

The supreme irony is that the attempt to silence women with the word ‘TERF’ may have pushed more young women towards radical feminism than the movement’s seen in decades.” - JK Rowling

When GC was banned, I woke up finally. I’m not a libfem who has gender critical thoughts. I am a gender critical feminist, i.e. a feminist. Period. And radical feminism isn’t the man-hating place it’s touted to be, nor is it that ‘radical’ at all. Its focus is solely dismantling the patriarchy, which is what I thought libfems were doing. Evidently not. And this is coming from someone who prides themselves on critical thought. Wow…

How long do we have to wait until all people reach peak trans, and what will it take for those who haven’t yet? Will it be too late by then? Society will have devolved fully back to its regressive state, using language such as ‘menstruators’ and ‘ejaculators’ to distinguish us, instead of woman and man. Remember in the not too distant past when men did that? And it was unequivocally misogyny? Now that it’s coming from ‘transwomen’ and ‘TRAs’, it’s suddenly okay? It’s ‘inclusive’, not misogyny? Does no one remember? Why are we repeating history, and why is it coming from people who claim to be liberals?! Liberals are the ones who dismantled that in the first place!

And then people will say ‘ejaculators’ is not fucking ‘inclusive’, because “some ‘menstruators’ can ejaculate too,” referring to female ejaculation, except it won’t be called that, it’ll be called ‘menstruator ejaculation’.

Seriously, I feel like I’m screaming into a void that until recently was fully occupied. WTF is going on. This feels like a dystopian fiction novel someone’s writing for fun, except that they won’t put the fucking pen down, and they’re forcing us to go along with their fiction and LIVE IN IT.

And since when do ideological differences result in censorship? We’ve ALWAYS encouraged debate and civil conversation as a people, because that’s what leads to PROGRESS. That’s what makes us different from animals, among MANY OTHER THINGS btw, to those comparing us to slugs. Why are we living in a time where an obvious distinction between slugs and humans has to be written down? I feel like I’m trapped in a fever dream that I’ve always known is a dream, but everyone in the dream is now claiming to be awake, or ironically 'woke', and now that I'm finally trying to wake up, I find that I cannot. Someone, please, please, wake me up.

We can brigade too, can’t we? I think we should go and start answering stuff with the line “as a trans man” and write whatever we want, even if it’s clearly coming from a woman. Let’s see if trans men get the same respect as trans women did when they decided to show up in women’s subs.