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Submitted by toxicopinions on July 8, 2020, 8:31 p.m. 63 points | 48 comments

For those of you who don’t know, there’s a term called “stealth” in the transgender community. It refers to a transgender individual who has transitioned fully and appears to be the sex they present themselves as (even though they’re not.) This person blends into society effortlessly, and you wouldn’t think they were transgender just upon looking at them or interacting with them. Sometimes they take the form of an ally to trans rights without explicitly outing themselves as transgender, and other times they’re completely divorced from the community (most prevalent with HSTS). The other important term we have here is “pass” and “passing”, which is when a transgender individual comes off as being born as the sex they’re presenting as. This person can be out or stealth, but in the eyes of society they “pass” as the sex they present as.

Normally I wouldn’t have an issue with it, but when it comes to homosexual spaces it gets a bit iffy for me. I’m not talking about transgender person who only tells you that they’re not “insert sex” right before getting down to doing it, I’m talking about their presence in gay bars, homosexual only spaces, gay communities, etc. People often think that it’s just an issue when it comes to dating but it’s not that. If there’s an event for lesbians, it’s for lesbians. It doesn’t matter if you look like you’re a woman, it’s not for you. If gay men are talking about their experiences or love for men, as a natal female, it is on you to stay the fuck away from us and our spaces. There are a million and 1 places where you can go if you want to talk to other people about how much you love men, and considering that you’re born female they’re much more likely to be accepting of you even if you’re decked out with a beard, facial hair, and muscular body. Even now, we’re constantly being pushed out of our spaces and our lesbian sisters get the brunt of being preyed upon and threatened. You are essentially invading a community of people who are trying to get away from homophobia and the opposite natal sex, because we are GAY. Stop occupying our spaces, let us have this one thing. It’s not just dating that we want. We want to be able to exist in spaces of the same sex, without having to make bizarre accommodations for every single micro identity. Being stealth is not a reason to go into communities you don’t belong to. I’m sorry, but stay in your lane. I’m aware this may be an unpopular opinion even here, but I don’t think it’s a lot to ask for.

Sorry for any grammar mistakes, English is not my first language and I’m very tired :)

Submitted by Everwaugh on July 8, 2020, 8:24 p.m. 35 comments

homosexuality noun

ho·​mo·​sex·​u·​al·​i·​ty | ˌhō-mə-ˌsek-shə-ˈwa-lə-tē

Definition of homosexuality

1 now sometimes offensive : sexual or romantic attraction to others of one's same sex : the quality or state of being gay

2 now sometimes offensive : sexual activity with another of the same sex

Was it always like this? Or is this a new “regressive to be progressive” edit?

Submitted by ohyougotpoopcorn on July 8, 2020, 8:08 p.m. 0 points | 4 comments

So guys, I eat pineapple and cottage cheese together. Yea, I know, some people think it’s disgusting, but some people really love it. Some people are just generally indifferent to snacks altogether.

So I found a ready-made snack pack in the store recently, a sort of yogurt bowl package, with cottage cheese on one side, and pineapple on the other. Yes, perfect! I thought. Best of both worlds, I thought, I was so excited.

So I opened it, all ready to love it, and took a bite, and well....I didn’t like it. I mean, I tried it, but it was a pineapple jam or something. It had some pineapple IN it, but it just wasn’t real pineapple, which is just what I’ve preferred, really since I was born.

So now I’m really freaking out, wondering what to do. I’m afraid if I don’t eat it, I’ll have to face some hard truths about myself as a person. Maybe I never really liked pineapple after all, maybe I hated it all along, and only I only used it as an excuse to have cottage cheese so I didn’t feel abnormal. Maybe I should just go ahead and eat it, maybe I’ll learn to like it. Maybe I’ll convince myself like the pineapple jam so much, I’ll realize that real pineapple is disgusting. And then I’ll be cured.

Submitted by mecagoentumadree on July 8, 2020, 7:09 p.m. 95 points | 89 comments

I had a pretty scary situation happen with a "friend" and I am so confused on how to handle it.

Reddit is my haven, but i fear that I am losing it. Ever since I was in middle school, I turned to reddit for the community. These subs dropping like flies scare me. I am barely an adult and I feel like I am losing hope for the future. I live in an extremely liberal area. We are known as a haven for gays and lesbians. Bisexuals obviously are welcome. Most people run to my state to escape judgment.

Unfortunately, it is very hard to express any opinion in my state. Every conversation is "inclusive" af. My schools have indoctrinated me. I was the most insufferable person because i got offended at everything. It was like I couldnt just live, and I had to fight every battle. I think my passion was linked to my past trauma. I felt like i needed to fight for other "victims". This lead me to accepting anyone and standing up for them without a second thought.

I am lesbian. Most of my friend group is part of the LGB. I have a number of trans friends as well. I had no issue with trans people until my friends became nightmares.

It started with the "I am a better girl than you are".

I truly believed that was valid. When i spoke about my problems as a woman, it was always somehow about transwomen.

Contrary to popular belief, although my state is liberal, its racist af. I was talking about my experiences with racism. My friend chimed in with the whole " Trans POC have it way worse off." I rejected that claim. My friend persisted and then posted a bunch of passive aggressive posts on social media. So many of my friends agreed with them. This was the first sign that I couldn't freely share my opinion.

Another of my trans friends, Maria, decided to not wear panties and expose herself while sitting in a dress in front of our friend group. It wasnt unintentional. Maria sat with her legs wide open and pulled her dress up. She kept asking me to stop looking at her dick. I wasnt looking at it. I think she was trying to bait me to do it. I literally refused to look in her direction and left. It was weird. Yet, my friends all got pissed at me for leaving and asked me if i was transphobic. Wild, right? How am i transphobic for not wanting to look at exposed genitalia?

Ok. Bringing up the experience that brought me here.

My trans "friend", Jessica, invited me over for a movie night. None of her roommates were home which was different, but made it easier for us to blast loud horror films. I lost track of time, and it was too late for a bus or my parents to pick me up. I was going to get an uber when Jessica suggested I spend the night. I am not into sleepovers and do not like cuddling. But, i agreed because she had a spare room.

I went to bed, and woke up to a penis being pressed against me. I freaked out and got up. It was Jessica. She faked that she was asleep. I shook her until she woke up. I asked what the was up because i am not into cuddling or fwb. She said she had a nightmare and started crying. I felt so bad that i comforted her. I was scared that i was transphobic, so I just laid back down and allowed her to cuddle me.

I fell asleep again and woke up to her attempting to take off my clothes. I got up and left without a word. My friends all want to know why I wont talk to Jessica anymore. I dont know what to say. I feel like I will lose all my friends. I have sexual trauma from men, and this situation felt exactly the same. I feel like she set me up to sexually assault me in my sleep. I feel so guilty for feeling that way. I feel so wrong for thinking of Jessica as a man. I really dont know where to turn or what to think. I wish i could tell someone in my real life.

Anyways thank you for being here, btw. I would be lost without this community.

Submitted by JoplinIsFree on July 8, 2020, 6:58 p.m. 8 comments

Sorry, not good at titles. For context I’m a bisexual detransitioned (FtMtF) woman in my mid 20s.

With what’s happened to the pcos subreddit and a majority of female spaces (on reddit and otherwise) I’ve started waking up to the reality that women, lesbians in particular, are subject to. Years ago I was a staunch support of TRAs & subscribed to their ideologies, nowadays I just want to be the best ally I can to lesbians and preserving spaces strictly for women.

I’m so new to this.. where do I begin?

Submitted by TheSaint7 on July 8, 2020, 6:37 p.m. 24 comments

If a man transitions into a women and dates another man, are they hat or straight ?

Depending on your answer you’ll either be a transphobe or a homophobe. This is why it’s so hard for the LGB to co exist with the T

And to any lurkers don’t be afraid to join the conversation

Submitted by TheSaint7 on July 8, 2020, 6:36 p.m. 2 comments

Depending on your answer you’ll either be a transphobe or a homophobe. This is why it’s so hard for the LGB to co exist with the T

And to any lurkers don’t be afraid to join the conversation

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Submitted by Whisperlinkz on July 8, 2020, 7:52 a.m. 52 comments

Hey everyone! I’m putting this here because I can’t think of anywhere else I can put it without getting horribly abused. I’d like to start this by saying that I respect people’s wishes, if you want to be called by whatever pronoun you want then sure, I’m happy to go along with it if it makes you comfortable.

But here’s where I’m worried. I’m about to finish school and go into the world, and I’m so scared I’ll meet someone who claims to be a lesbian but is actually a man. I’m so scared they will slander me because I don’t want to have sex or a relationship with a man and I’ll be labeled as transphobic, which could cause my friends to think I’m hateful? I’m so worried about all the uncertainty. Coming to this sub felt like a breathe of fresh air, and now it might be gone soon too. I don’t know what to do.

Thanks for reading. If anyone has any advice, hmu haha. This was my safe space, so thanks for being here while we can be.

Submitted by insectatribe06 on July 8, 2020, 7:37 a.m. 34 comments

Can i identify as a strictly straight, hetro lady whilst muff diving on the daily? If you think i can't, why not? Apparently objective reality has been queered, right? If a penis and a vagina and general obvious sex characteristics don't define male and female according to some shockingly mainstream leftist thinking...then i can fuck as many women as i want and be straight according to this logic! I just ask her to say they are a man once to me before doing the deed then BOOM, we are straight. If anyone questions my straightness for one second they shall hereby be CANCELLED.

Wow guys i can't believe i cured homophobia...wait, i mean, straight phobia, or wait...I'm confused now.

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Submitted by notworth_it on July 8, 2020, 6:33 a.m. 1 point | 48 comments

I want to have a boyfriend (Im male) but I dislike gay sex

Lately I've been questioning my sexuality and I think I might be bi, my problem is that I experienced sexual trauma when I was a kid so just thinking about having sex with another man makes me feel nauseous, even physical contact in general its hard (with both genders) so I dont even know what to think anymore. If I could forget everything that happened then maybe I could have gay sex without feeling like shit.

I was going to post this on r/lgbt but they will probably label me as asexual or some shit and I already questioned that so no thanks.

Sorry for the rant

Submitted by Elcsm on July 8, 2020, 6:25 a.m. 3 comments

Lately I've been questioning my sexuality and I think I might be bi, my problem is that I experienced sexual trauma when I was a kid so just thinking about having sex with another man makes me feel nauseous, even physical contact in general its hard (with both genders) so I dont even know what to think anymore, if I could forget everything that happened then maybe I could have gay sex without feeling like shit.

Sorry for the rant

Submitted by RetroGaming_xD on July 8, 2020, 5:43 a.m. 19 comments

I probably will get down voted but I don't care. I don't like this sub but I hear many things about trans people or trans activist here that are just not true. Its like those feminists that are very shitty and annoying, and they are the reason why many people think all feminist are shitty. So I want to tell you what me, my trans friends and many people without radical views on that topic think.

Most important thing:

It's NOT TRANSPHOBIC to not date a trans person if its because of one of those reasons.

1. You have a genital preference, and they don't have the genitals you would like them to have.

2. They still look to feminine / masculine for your taste.

3. They are just not your type.

4. You don't like other body parts of the gender you are not attracted to that they still have.

It IS TRANSPHOBIC to not date a trans person if its because of one of those reasons.

1. You think that just because they have dick / vagina that they are not a man / woman.

2. You think that they are not a man / woman if they don't pass very good.

Important: It's simple. If you don't think that they are less of a man / woman because of their physical appearance it is transphobic, if you don't want to date them because of their physical appearance BUT still accept them as the gender they identify as, it isn't transphobic.

Other stuff I want to clarify what I and most normal person think:

  • Forcing anyone to date / have sex with a trans person by telling them they are transphobic if they wouldn't do it is shitty and you shouldn't do this.
  • Most trans people don't want other people to know that they are trans. None of my trans friends told me they are trans. Most times I found it out by myself. You should never push a trans person to out themselves infront of others. The only exception is when they want to have sex with the other person, and they hadn't had all the surgeries.
  • A trans person is always valid. Even if they just started transitioning and hadn't had hormones or surgeries. A trans person is not just valid if they are done transitioning and fully look like the gender they identify as.
  • Giving children hormones or anything permanent is bad. It's a kid. It can't make decisions that are as important as taking hormones. The only things that are ok for children are trying out different names, pronouns, clothes or a different haircut. In some cases hormone blockers are fine (which are completely irreversible and are not permanent). Many of my trans friends knew that they were trans since they were kids and would have loved hormone blockers.

I want to discuss with you in the comments so please be nice. If you want me to change my opinion on some things you won't achieve that by insulting me :)

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Submitted by Hirsute-Man97 on July 7, 2020, 10 p.m. 1 point | 5 comments

Hey everyone,

I’ve been silent about this for as long as I could out of respect for my former colleagues in moderation, but after they callously erased every trace of me there I feel the need to speak out. For awhile I was a moderator of a subreddit called r/BisexualMen I valued the work I did there on my free time and it was all going along swimmingly. That is until the trans and other tq crazies started joining. For awhile I was able to limit their behaviors and actions, people were happy.

That’s when they started colonizing. They started policing the behavior of others and attacking people for jokes. They played the victim game and said that my lax moderation on such jokes and incidents was “transphobic” when in reality I was asleep or out drinking with friends when such incidents occurred. Soon I was given an ultimatum: I had to resign as moderator or they would make brigade the sub and as one of them put it: “make the place a god damn ghost town” I tried to raise concerns with my superiors and asked logical questions such as: What is a trans women doing in a server for bisexual men? Why are bisexual men being silenced in their own spaces? But it had fallen on deaf ears. One of our other moderators had drank the Kool-Aid and staged a coup against me. They said they would transfer ownership of the server to me after this all blows over. When in reality they broke all associations with me and only transferred the server back after everyone started leaving and they made a big announcement denouncing me.

This has proven to me a universal truth: you can’t have any intersectionality with these people. They will always feel the need to advance their own agenda and personal favors.

Sincerely,

one pissed off bisexual man

PS sorry if that’s the wrong flair

Submitted by Wonder_Platypus on July 7, 2020, 8:48 p.m. 1 point | 29 comments

Im high right now and just kinda going with the flow. Im a straight guy. I am sexually attracted to women and emotionally attracted. But. I use a dildo for stimulation basically as boredom from masterbating. That's brought on thoughts of guys for sex as a weird substitute for a woman.

TL:DR need someone to talk to and explain things.

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Submitted by FrickleFrackle1978 on July 7, 2020, 7:33 p.m. 1 point | 7 comments

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Submitted by scoopieleaf on July 7, 2020, 4:33 p.m. 1 point | 8 comments

I don’t understand what the fuck is wrong with this entire community thinking they should have a problem with how other people live their lives. Like get a fucking life! You hate homophobes? Stop being transphobic jfc you can’t demand equality for yourself and not for others all y’all are stupid fuckin bitches

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Submitted by -Sworld- on July 7, 2020, 2:27 p.m. 1 point | 9 comments

LGBTIA+ is about inclusion obviously you guys never thought that way.

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