I was hoping to get some advice/stories/anecdotes about introducing new relationships after divorce to kids, from a lesbian perspective. My (31) girlfriend (35) is divorced and has 3 kids (8, 6, 2). She and her ex told the kids about the divorce at the end of April (it had been in the works long before that), and my girlfriend moved out at the end of May. They're currently splitting custody of the kids. We're trying to figure out when to tell the kids that she and I are dating. I've hung out with them on a few separate occasions so far (before and after the kids knew about the divorce), including spending a week on vacation with them and their aunt, and they know me as Mommy and Auntie's friend. They like me and enjoy spending time with me, but we're trying to figure out how to make the transition to being 'out' as dating with them.
She and I are very serious; I'm going to move in in the fall and she's definitely the woman I'm going to marry. We want to make sure we handle this well with telling the kids. I've been trying to google, but it's a little bit of a different situation since I've already met them and they already know and like me. So I'm not a totally new person coming into their lives. Plus being lesbians adds a different angle to it too. I'd love any tips or stories you might have!